Hey Dear,
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Been a while, I had some private stuff to figure out.
But we're back and ready.
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I'm currently in Indonesia checking out the digital nomad lifestyle.
Not yet sure how I feel about it, but ask me in a month and I'll probably have a more precise answer.
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Anyway, my life is one thing, but I did have couple of similar conversation with the people I work with. They were all revolving around one simple question:

How do I figure out what I actually want to do in life?

And that's what today's newsletter is about.

So Patryk, how?

Short answer - by doing.

Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

Most people try to answer this by sitting and thinking harder.

But clarity doesn’t come from thinking.

It comes from testing.

Let me introduce you to CLARITY

This is a framework I've developed for myself. I was reading a bunch of stuff related to finding your passion, how to find out what you're good at, what do you even like doing (two books I'd recommend would be Master by Robert Greene and Dedicated by Pete Davis).

In all those sources there was a lot of information, tools, advices.
So I picked the ideas, simple tools that work for me and I'm whenever this subject pops up during session, I share it with my clients.

The framework:

(C)uriosity over passion
How many times you've heard to "follow your passion"? Probably at least a couple.
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Chasing “passion” can leave you stuck, waiting for a lightning bolt that may never come. Curiosity, on the other hand, is small and actionable. So this one is simple, just ask yourself: “What’s one thing I’d enjoy learning more about this week?”
Then spend just an hour on it. Read an article, watch a video, or test a simple tool.
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Passion often grows out of these small sparks of curiosity.

(L)isten to your energy
​Your calendar doesn’t show you what’s giving or draining your energy.
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But your body does. You know exactly what drains and what energises you.
You're just not paying attention.
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So, for a week or two, take 3 minutes at the end of each workday and rate the tasks you did:
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+1 = energising
0 = neutral
-1 = draining
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At the end, review the list. You’ll see patterns: certain projects, people, or tasks consistently fill you up or wear you down.
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That’s real data to guide your next steps. And we love data.

(A)ct through experiments
​Do you know those people who are going from 0 to 100 in a matter of seconds? That's me. Maybe you as well.
So what I need to do every time I set up my mind on something new is to pace and restrain myself.
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I've had cases where I overcommited to a thing before I even knew it fits. And I know a lot of people have a similar problem. So, instead of enrolling in a $2,000 course, test the waters. If you're thinking Level Design might be for you, try modding some games first. Or build something in UEFN, because why the hell not. If you’re drawn to coding, spend a weekend on a free platform.
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Experiments are low-cost, low-risk ways to gather evidence about what excites you.
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Protip here - write down how this stuff made you feel. Were you bored, exicted, wanted to do more of it?
Do you remember yourself checking out tutorials or thinking about the thing while doing something else?

(R)emove other's voices
It’s easy to confuse what you want with what others expect.
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We've all been there - parents, managers, friends, LinkedIn gurus.
They all have a vision of what we are suppose to do.
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To cut through the noise, write down the answer to this question: ​
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“If no one judged me, what would I try?”
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And unleash your inner madman and write like no one will ever see it.

(I)ntegrate skills, values, impact
​Fulfilment usually comes at the overlap of three things:

• What you’re good at (skills)
• What matters to you (values)
• Where you can make a difference (impact)

I like the simple tool here:
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Grab a piece of paper and draw three overlapping circles.
Fill each with as many ideas as you can. In the middle, you’ll often find clues to work that feels meaningful and sustainable.

I remember when I did this for myself.
In skills section I wrote stuff like recruitment, coaching, writing, listening, grit, easygoing
Values were simple because I know mine - growth, honesty, open-mindedness
Impact - I like helping people going through recruitment processes, build careers, guiding them through tough transitions
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The overlap wasn’t “find a new passion.” It was much clearer: use my skills in recruitment and writing to help people grow their careers. That gave me permission to lean into coaching and content creation, instead of waiting for some big “calling” to appear.

(T) Treat is as evolving ​
Your career is not a marriage vow.
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It’s a series of iterations. Instead of feeling pressure to “decide for life,” commit to shorter timelines: 6 weeks, 3 months, or 6 months.
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At the end, reflect:
​What did I learn?
Do I want more of this, less of this, or something different?
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Iteration beats paralysis.

(Y)our contrast list
​Clarity also comes from extremes. Make two columns:

• On the left, 5 activities that make time fly.
• On the right, 5 you dread or avoid.

Even if the answers feel obvious, seeing them side by side is powerful.
All those "yes" and "no" create boundaries that make decisions easier.

If you run this, you won’t magically have all the answers.
But you’ll stop being stuck.
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And that’s usually where the real journey begins.
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Have a great rest of the week.