Hey Dear,
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I had a completely different idea for this week’s newsletter,
But then I had this interview.
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It started out like any other.
I hopped into the call, a little tired but still enough in the tank to go in with a smile and energy.
Said hello, made small talk, and sensed it would be tough.
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And I was right.
I’ve interviewed enough people to know within the first minute when it’s not just going to be an interview.
It’s going to be a battle for focus.
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A mental struggle for the next 30–45 minutes.
And it took so. much. energy. to stay present that afterwards, I didn’t even want to talk to anyone.
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The only word I could associate with that person was draining.​
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A real-life energy vampire.

The interview killer nobody mentions

Not a lack of experience.
Not nerves.
Not missing skills.
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Just plain old being boring.
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​You can have ten years in the industry, a killer portfolio, and still get a polite “We’ll get back to you” on the call.
Because somewhere between your words and your delivery, they stopped caring.
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You can have all the right answers, but if you can’t hold attention, you lose.
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Here’s why being “boring” kills more interviews than lack of skill ever will, and how to make people actually listen.

Death by one tone

Let’s settle this: “Boring” isn’t about being quiet or introverted.
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When I tell clients this, I often hear:

And I get it.
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I’m an introvert at heart, too.
I’m average at best at storytelling.
And sometimes, when I start talking, I can go faster than an M134 Minigun (which fires over 6,000 bullets per minute, you’re welcome for this random piece of useless knowledge).
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But that’s not what we’re talking about.
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We’re talking about failing to engage.
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You talk too much but say little.
Your tone never changes.
You sound like you’ve memorised your lines.
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You never make it a two-way exchange.
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You think you’re being professional.
And maybe in some regions or cultures, that’s fine.
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But here’s the truth most people can’t face:

I need you to read that again.
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​Your job is to make someone care enough to remember you.

Why can we be seen as boring?

Think about when you’re hanging out with friends and someone new joins, such as a partner or a friend of a friend.
They laugh too loud, spill a drink, smile awkwardly, but they’re themselves.
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You can feel it.
The energy.
That spark of authenticity.
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Now imagine the opposite.
That’s “boring.”
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Two main culprits are fear and autopilot.
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​Fear of saying the wrong thing​
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You strip away emotion, personality, humor.
Anything that could be “too much.”
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You end up safe.
But also generic.
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Invisible.
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You think you’re protecting yourself,
But what you’re really doing is erasing yourself.
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​Autopilot mode
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​You’ve repeated the same project story ten times this month.
It used to feel alive, now it sounds like you’re reading a PowerPoint slide.
With your back turned to the audience.
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Once you stop feeling it, the interviewer does too.
If you’re not emotionally in the room, they can sense it instantly.

How to stop being an energy vampire

It’s actually simple once you realise one thing:
It’s all about connection.
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​And connection begins with three key elements: energy, clarity, and curiosity.​
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Let’s break that down.

Tell stories, not summaries

Generic. Forgettable.

Now that’s a scene.
It has tension, action, and resolution.
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That’s how people remember you, through moments.

Show enthusiasm, real enthusiasm

It’s easy to spot when someone’s faking it or simply doesn’t care.
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You don’t need to shout (In fact, please don’t).
But you do need to sound awake.
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If your tone is flat, if you talk like you’re reading notes, it’s gg, not wp.
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Energy = attention.
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Protip? Record yourself.
If you sound bored, and trust me, you’ll know, imagine how it feels for someone who just met you.

Make it a conversation

Great interviews aren’t interrogations.
They’re collaborations.
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Ask questions. React.
Build on what they say.
(It’s something we covered in detail last week; if you missed it, you can find it here.)
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It doesn’t just show curiosity.
It changes the power dynamic.
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Now, you’re not just performing - you’re co-running the interview.
And that instantly makes you more memorable.

Respect time and rhythm

If your answer runs longer than two minutes, you’re not explaining, you’re losing them.
Good answers have shape:
​Start → Challenge → Action → Result → Pause.
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​And yes, I included Pause on purpose.
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Because most people forget,
You don’t need to fill every silence.
In fact, please don’t.
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Own the silence.
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I’ll die on this hill - Once you’ve answered the question, stop talking.​
I know it’s hard. But I need you to stand your god damn ground and embrace it.
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That’s confidence.
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And if you start answering again, rephrasing the same point,
You’ve just undone everything you built.

Control your delivery

Tone. Pacing. Pauses.
These are your tools.
Vary your pitch and rhythm.
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Smile occasionally - it instantly changes your tone.
Sit upright. Keep an open posture.
Breathe before you start each answer.
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You don’t have to perform,
But you do have to be awake.

The truth underneath it all

Being boring isn’t about who you are.
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It’s about the disconnection between your expertise and how you express it.
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You’ve spent years mastering your craft, and you’re pretty darn good at it.
Now it’s time to master how you communicate it.
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Because if your ideas can’t hold attention, they’ll never hold power.
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Interviewing isn’t a “soft skill.”
It’s leverage.​
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You don’t win interviews by being perfect.
You win by being present.
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​People don’t remember perfect candidates.
They remember the ones who made them feel something.
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So next time, don’t try to impress.
​Try to connect.​
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That’s all from me this week, my dear.
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You got this.
Patryk
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​PS.​
I help people become better than 95% of applicants in 60 days or less.
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